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The film company OMGYES.com (use the coupon Foreplay for 10% off!) has helped to create a sort of “how-to” guide for female pleasure. They study sex techniques during intercourse and these sexy moves are the result. Female sexuality has long been ignored by science. Today’s research seeks to bring language to female pleasure. Four techniques women can bring to the bedroom are: Angling, Rocking, Shallowing, and Pairing, plus a bonus technique from podcaster and our director Dr. Laurie Watson.
That said, I don’t want women to go back to thinking, “This is the goal. We want you to orgasm during sexual intercourse!” Instead, I present these sex techniques because I want you to have more pleasure during sexual intercourse. It’s possible! Most women don’t climax through sexual intercourse – that’s normal. All women need clitoral stimulation. But here are some ways to create possibilities. One of the most problematic areas during sex is how to explain what you want and need and developing the courage to ask for it. These labels for sex techniques can help couples understand each other:
The female-focused study took data from over 3,000 adult women and found that 87.5% of participants used “Angling” to make vaginal penetration more pleasurable.
As the name suggests, Angling is a sexual technique that involves switching a woman’s body posture during sexual intercourse in a way that puts the clitoris in greater contact with the penis or a partner’s pelvis.
To take advantage of Angling, women can use pillows under her hips to help create a pelvic angle or move to positions that increase pleasurable contact. Multiple sexual positions take advantage of Angling. Below I’ve listed three for you to explore.
My advice is to play around with the angle of your hips and legs. See which positions feel best to your body. The study found that 67.6% of women angled their hips low for pleasure. While 83.5% angled their hips high. Hint: not all women seek or experience pleasure the same way.
Rocking involves positions that allow for constant contact with a woman’s clitoris. Use a sex toy that rubs the clitoris during penetration or use this position; it keeps the base of her partner’s penis pressed against her clitoris. This sexual technique idea is to maintain consistent clitoral friction, which enhances stimulation.
Using penis-to-skin contact requires that the man rock his pelvis in a way that rubs the clitoris. This variation on the missionary position is also known as the coital alignment technique (CAT). CAT places the man on top, but instead of using a thrusting motion, he grinds, increasing the chance of female orgasm.
Rocking is one possibility that may lead to that. In the study, 76% of women reported used Rocking to increase satisfaction.
Shallowing is being touched just inside the entrance of the vagina. Through penetration, women feel more stretch through the vaginal canal, but women experience greater friction around the opening of the vagina.
Shallowing might involve a partner using their penis tip, fingertip, tongue, or sex toy. There was no consistency regarding which of these touches women reported as most pleasurable. For some women, it was a finger; for others, the penis tip, etc. Still, there was consensus that pleasure was increased even if Shallowing was employed briefly.
The key to using Shallowing as a sexual technique is to touch just inside the vaginal canal and keep the touch shallow, not deep. About 84% of women reported using Shallowing. It’s a beautiful method for building anticipation, which gives the women a chance to warm up to the idea of sex versus thrusting right into well…thrusting.
In my practice, I often hear women talk about the combination of g-spot stimulation and oral sex; this amalgam of sexual techniques is the very definition of Pairing.
In OMGYES’ Pleasure Report, they subdivided Pairing into two categories: Solo and Partner. Solo Pairing is explored when a woman stimulates her clitoris with her finger or a sex toy while also experiencing vaginal penetration.
Partner Pairing is when her partner reaches down to help with clitoral stimulation during penetration using a finger, sex toy, penis, or tongue, allowing the woman to experience sensation in two areas at once.
There are two aspects of Pairing that encourage pleasure:
What’s great about double stimulation is that the brain doesn’t have time to figure out what’s happening. Instead, it’s “let’s go” and let pleasure take over.
Pairing also respects a women’s unique anatomy by allowing couples to work with the visible parts of the clitoris. As well as the hidden parts we cannot see. During sex, the penis can stretch toward the root or underside of the clitoris, creating stimulation while the visible part of the clitoris receives attention in other ways.
The OMGYES study reports that 69.7% of women have used either Solo or Partner Pairing sexual techniques to make penetration more pleasurable.
Finally, Kegel squeezes. It is not the development of pelvic floor strength that I encourage (though that may be important for bladder control, etc.), but simply the way tension changes sensation in the moment. While not officially part of the Pleasure Report, it is a sexual technique I encourage my clients to explore.
Kegels engage the muscles that a woman uses to stop the flow of urine. The research is definitive that Kegel squeezes during sex do not increase orgasmic power. However, this technique does change the sensation of sexual intercourse. It changes the way a woman experiences clitoral and vaginal stimulation. It’s also a sexy technique that plays well with others—for example, Pairing.
We’ve already talked about how Pairing combines different sensations to increase sexual pleasure. Combining with Kegels is no different. Using Kegels with penetration can be sexy. During sex, you can practice Kegels using a steady squeeze or a pulse. This sexy technique adds variety and explores of pleasure.
Another benefit of Kegel squeezing is that when you are focused on the vulva, it’s difficult not to be aware of your vulva. The practice can keep your mind from wandering away from intercourse and instead give you a focus point that is very connected to the experience.
The Pleasure Report provides couples with a shared language and terms empowering them to say, “Hey, I’d like you to do this.” Asking for want you want during sexual intercourse is vulnerable. It’s exciting to your partner. And we explain repeatedly on our podcast how to talk and ask for what you want. Results presented are accessible and help create a common language for partners ready to explore. Sex therapy can help you learn these intercourse techniques and help you talk to each other