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Love and Sex Quiz

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Take this quiz to find out where you land in the Emotional Cycle and the Sexual Cycle. Are you a Sexual Pursuer or Withdrawer? What about in the Emotional Cycle — Withdrawer or Pursuer?

Love & Sex Quiz
Please answer each of the following 38 questions, then click the 'Submit' button.
Love and Sex Quiz
1. I find it difficult to trust others completely, or to depend on them. I sometimes worry that I will be hurt if I allow myself to become too close to others.
2. You are a fast thinker and faster talker during an argument.
3. You grew up watching your parents closely and had to really be engaging to get their attention
4. You learned early in life that self-reliance was the smartest strategy
5. Your sexual fantasies seem very private.
6. I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like.
7. Making your partner happy is important to you.
8. You vigilantly wait for right moment when your partner is in the mood.
9. Delaying the needs of a partnership are often necessary due to work or family obligations.
10. You would love for your partner to be curious about your sexual fantasies
11. Your partner's sexual rejection makes you worry that you are not attractive enough.
12. You want your partner to be your best friend by sharing secrets and talking feelings
13. You worry that your partner is just not sexual enough for you.
14. You long for your partner to ask you deep questions about yourself and your feelings.
15. You worry frequently about the state of your relationship and can feel starved for attention.
16. Sex is love and makes you feel emotionally close.
17. You frequently hear the message in many realms of the relationship - emotionally and practically - that you are not good enough
18. Talking about problems often makes them worse.
19. Sex is connection for you and afterwards you are more likely to feel open emotionally
20. Your relationship is fine.. until your partner complains.
21. You’re critical of your body’s appearance.
22. You frequently hear the message in many realms of the relationship your needs emotionally and practically, are too much.
23. You enjoy frequency, variety, and intensity of sexual activities
24. You frequently hear the message that sexually you are not good enough.
25. Sometimes your partner feels invasive by wanting to know your plans and inner thoughts
26. You are the one who most often initiates sex in your relationship.
27. In conflict, you easily shut down.
28. You frequently hear the message that sexually you are too much.
29. You feel uninhibited in your own body. You want to enjoy your body’s fullest capacity sexually
30. I sometimes worry that others don't value me as much as I value them.
31. Looking out for yourself is a top priority.
32. You need to talk and spend time together first before you feel ready to be sexual.
33. Sex is a part of love but not necessary for emotional connection
34. You never get a chance to initiate sex because your partner always asks first.
35. You are content with infrequent sexual encounters.
36. The reason you don’t share your feelings is because your partner is critical.
37. Your partners sexual demands crowd out any feelings of your own desire.
38. You find yourself watchful of small signs that things are not okay with your partner and worry you've caused a breach.

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