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Extra Whipped Cream and Sexual Pursuers

June 28, 2018

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Sex Therapy, Male Sexuality

Pursuers are not powerless to change the sexual dynamic and create better sex. I asked for extra whipped cream when I bought an ice cream sundae with my family last weekend. Piles of whipped cream and mounds of fluff came out positively billowing on top of the melting soft vanilla covered in hot fudge. I…

Sexual Distancers Surprisingly Often Like Sex

June 27, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Female Sexuality, Sex Therapy

Three ways lower libido spouses can make their partners happy Sexual distancers like sex. Truly, they do. They like sex to happen when they are ready for it, when they are expecting it, when they want it. Seduction is often the elixir that awakens their sexual desire. They’d like to be tempted, coaxed, reassured, charmed and…

A Low Libido Woman’s Six Secrets

June 16, 2018

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All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Female Sexuality, Sex Therapy

A low libido woman doesn’t want it as much as you and she can’t explain why. You feel dread. Or maybe because men and women experience the rhythm of their body’s desire-arousal-orgasm cycle as an absolute truth, there is simple misunderstanding. Knowing her body’s secrets will keep sex in synch. How to read her body:…

Sexual Power Struggle – Solve it with the Five Love Languages

June 15, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics

“Why does my husband act nice only when he’s had sex? Why doesn’t he behave sweetly and helpfully so that I will want sex?” Probably because sex has lost it’s eroticism and it’s become a chip in the sexual power struggle. I often ask women who say this – how long did he act sweet…

Sexuality of Hope or Despair in Marriage

June 12, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Desire, Sexual Dynamics, Sex Therapy

Attachment and its effect on sexuality. We marry with a commitment that sex will continue to make our union alive and complete. With sacred vows we commit onto sexual fidelity—an alive sexual relationship solely with our chosen partner. Over and over again, we make love and grow in secure attachment. Oxytocin chemical binds us. Attachment means…

Sexual Change – Is it Genuine? (or Are They Just Doing It Because I Asked)

June 11, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Female Sexuality, Sex Therapy

How to know if sexual change is authentic and permanent Changing sexual patterns is tough. Accepting change is tougher. We want to know two things about our partner’s about-face: Is it from their heart? Will it last? Malcom came into see me after a dismal seven years of marriage He had begged his wife to show…

His/Her Tasks to Insure Sexual Fireworks in the Bedroom on the 4th!

May 30, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Sex Therapy, Holidays and Sex

Last year’s Fourth of July had been a bust for my patients, Allen and Beverly – no sexual fireworks, not even a sparkler. He had hoped the extra vacation day would be like a Saturday and start with sex. Instead, the children had snuck out early to play with weighted cap-rocket bombers waking the neighbors,…

Are You Not Attracted to your Partner Anymore?

May 29, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Desire, Sexual Dynamics

So many patients I’ve helped say, “I’m not attracted to my partner anymore.” Hate to say it, but this is normal. When we are in disillusionment, our partner seems more toad than princess or prince. Most of these people have married relatively-to-amazingly attractive others. I know, I’ve met them. But when we have fallen out…

Intimate Desire

April 18, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Desire, Sexual Dynamics, Couples Counseling

Sexual desire beats like a heart through a healthy marriage, pumping life into the mundane, dayto-day repetitions of running a household to the extraordinary moments of the perfect romantic dinner. Through this powerful life-force, we are drawn to one unique person from the sea of all possible mates to create an unparalleled match with the…

Why I’m Not Into You – Wanting Anyone But the One You’re With

April 17, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Desire, Sexual Dynamics, Female Sexuality, Sex Therapy

Selective desire: wanting anyone BUT the one you’re with I was invited to speak on low sexual desire at a women’s gathering. After listening to the participants’ conversation, I piped up and said I thought I might be in the wrong place. They all sounded full of desire if not bawdy with sexual innuendo. “Yeah,…

Extra Whipped Cream and Sexual Pursuers

Sexual Distancers Surprisingly Often Like Sex

A Low Libido Woman’s Six Secrets

Sexual Power Struggle – Solve it with the Five Love Languages

Sexuality of Hope or Despair in Marriage

Sexual Change – Is it Genuine? (or Are They Just Doing It Because I Asked)

His/Her Tasks to Insure Sexual Fireworks in the Bedroom on the 4th!

Are You Not Attracted to your Partner Anymore?

Intimate Desire

Why I’m Not Into You – Wanting Anyone But the One You’re With

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