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Sexual Power Struggle – Solve it with the Five Love Languages

June 15, 2018

“Why does my husband act nice only when he’s had sex? Why doesn’t he behave sweetly and helpfully so that I will want sex?” Probably because sex has lost it’s eroticism and it’s become a chip in the sexual power struggle. I often ask women who say this – how long did he act sweet…

Sexuality of Hope or Despair in Marriage

June 12, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Desire, Sexual Dynamics, Sex Therapy

Attachment and its effect on sexuality. We marry with a commitment that sex will continue to make our union alive and complete. With sacred vows we commit onto sexual fidelity—an alive sexual relationship solely with our chosen partner. Over and over again, we make love and grow in secure attachment. Oxytocin chemical binds us. Attachment means…

Sexual Change – Is it Genuine? (or Are They Just Doing It Because I Asked)

June 11, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Female Sexuality, Sex Therapy

How to know if sexual change is authentic and permanent Changing sexual patterns is tough. Accepting change is tougher. We want to know two things about our partner’s about-face: Is it from their heart? Will it last? Malcom came into see me after a dismal seven years of marriage He had begged his wife to show…

His/Her Tasks to Insure Sexual Fireworks in the Bedroom on the 4th!

May 30, 2018

Laurie Watson

Holidays and Sex, All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Sex Therapy

Last year’s Fourth of July had been a bust for my patients, Allen and Beverly – no sexual fireworks, not even a sparkler. He had hoped the extra vacation day would be like a Saturday and start with sex. Instead, the children had snuck out early to play with weighted cap-rocket bombers waking the neighbors,…

Are You Not Attracted to your Partner Anymore?

May 29, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Desire, Sexual Dynamics

So many patients I’ve helped have said, “I’m not attracted to my partner anymore.” I hate to say it, but this is normal. When we are in disillusionment, our partner seems more toad than princess or prince. Most of these people have married relatively-to-amazingly attractive partners. I know; I’ve met them. But when we have…

Intimate Desire

April 18, 2018

Laurie Watson

Desire, Sexual Dynamics, Couples Counseling, All Blogs

Sexual desire beats like a heart through a healthy marriage, pumping life into the mundane, dayto-day repetitions of running a household to the extraordinary moments of the perfect romantic dinner. Through this powerful life-force, we are drawn to one unique person from the sea of all possible mates to create an unparalleled match with the…

Why I’m Not Into You – Wanting Anyone But the One You’re With

April 17, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Desire, Sexual Dynamics, Female Sexuality, Sex Therapy

Selective desire: wanting anyone BUT the one you’re with I was invited to speak on low sexual desire at a women’s gathering. After listening to the participants’ conversation, I piped up and said I thought I might be in the wrong place. They all sounded full of desire if not bawdy with sexual innuendo. “Yeah,…

11 Honeymoon Assignments

April 5, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Sex Therapy, Honeymoons

Spend a honeymoon afternoon preparing for a lifetime of good sex. If you want the honeymoon to be just the beginning of a fulfilling sex life, spend an afternoon on the beach sharing intimate secrets of what, when, where, and how you like sex! Laying down a pattern of openness gives your sex life the needed…

Is Fighting About Sex Ruining your Marriage?

March 27, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics, Sex Therapy, Couples Counseling

Balance the between space and get happy sexually. What if you felt as content as this blog picture looks? If sex were not a problem, would you be happy again in your marriage? Amherst, a thirty-nine year old mother of three, told me that her marriage would be a “10” if their conflict over frequency…

February 15th: Falling Out of Love

March 15, 2018

Laurie Watson

All Blogs, Sexual Dynamics

Yesterday: high holiday for lovers; today, disillusionment everywhere. It was the high holy holiday for lovers yesterday. Today, there is disillusionment everywhere. Some of us had sex. Some of us didn’t get any. Some of us got some but didn’t really want it to begin with. Maybe the restaurant was too crowded or our indigestion stopped…

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Sexual Power Struggle – Solve it with the Five Love Languages

Sexuality of Hope or Despair in Marriage

Sexual Change – Is it Genuine? (or Are They Just Doing It Because I Asked)

His/Her Tasks to Insure Sexual Fireworks in the Bedroom on the 4th!

Are You Not Attracted to your Partner Anymore?

Intimate Desire

Why I’m Not Into You – Wanting Anyone But the One You’re With

11 Honeymoon Assignments

Is Fighting About Sex Ruining your Marriage?

February 15th: Falling Out of Love

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