What’s the Best Time of Day to Have Sex
Morning sex vs. evening sex – it’s an age-old conflict, usually with men on one side and women on the other. Men wake up already aroused, so morning is prime…
Sexual Distancers Surprisingly Often Like Sex
Three ways lower libido spouses can make their partners happy Sexual distancers like sex. Truly, they do. They like sex to happen when they are ready for it, when they are…
Sexual Change – Is it Genuine? (or Are They Just Doing It Because I Asked)
How to know if sexual change is authentic and permanent Changing sexual patterns is tough. Accepting change is tougher. We want to know two things about our partner’s about-face: Is…
Why I’m Not Into You – Wanting Anyone But the One You’re With
Selective desire: wanting anyone BUT the one you’re with I was invited to speak on low sexual desire at a women’s gathering. After listening to the participants’ conversation, I piped…
Vaginismus – An Anxiety and Sexual Pain Disorder
A girlfriend called me yesterday saying that two of her friends were unable to achieve intercourse. Full penetration was impossible six months into their marriages. Too much pain was the…
Witches, Wenches, and Sexual Women
What’s the difference between a “slut” and a “good” woman? Is it a coincidence? On Halloween—the same day we are acknowledging the dark and evil side of life—the predominant costume choices…
Heal the Whore-Madonna Split and Have More Sex While Parenting
Healing the Whore-Madonna split and reviving sex during parenthood Jake called into a morning drive radio talk show where I’m a sexpert and reported that there had been no sex in his…
Desire and Body Self-Esteem
Today, more and more women are less and less certain of themselves as sexual beings beyond the hype of advertising. Body self-esteem determines desire. Consider Judy: “I just don’t feel…
Staying Sexy through ED and Vaginal Dryness
You’re revved up. You’re going a hundred miles an hour. You’re just at that perfect moment to slide into place. Bam! for no apparent reason—flat tire! Or a dry, desert…
Nap Time – A Remedy for being Too Tired for Sex
Are you tired? Can’t possibly quit and take a nap? It’s the holidays and I took a nap yesterday. No, that’s not a euphemism for afternoon delight. I simply ignored…