7 Snafus During Sex: What to Do When Things Go Wrong
For most of us, sex doesn’t really resemble the perfectly choreographed scenes we see in the movies. In real life, there are snafus – someone’s elbow catches someone’s hair, someone…
Should We See a Sex Therapist?
Putting to bed common fears about seeing a sex therapist Common fears about sex therapy: 1) the sex therapist will suggest a threesome to spice up our sex life, 2)…
Extra Whipped Cream and Sexual Pursuers
Pursuers are not powerless to change the sexual dynamic and create better sex. I asked for extra whipped cream when I bought an ice cream sundae with my family last…
Sexual Distancers Surprisingly Often Like Sex
Three ways lower libido spouses can make their partners happy Sexual distancers like sex. Truly, they do. They like sex to happen when they are ready for it, when they are…
Sexuality of Hope or Despair in Marriage
Attachment and its effect on sexuality. We marry with a commitment that sex will continue to make our union alive and complete. With sacred vows we commit onto sexual fidelity—an…
Sexual Change – Is it Genuine? (or Are They Just Doing It Because I Asked)
How to know if sexual change is authentic and permanent Changing sexual patterns is tough. Accepting change is tougher. We want to know two things about our partner’s about-face: Is…
His/Her Tasks to Insure Sexual Fireworks in the Bedroom on the 4th!
Last year’s Fourth of July had been a bust for my patients, Allen and Beverly – no sexual fireworks, not even a sparkler. He had hoped the extra vacation day…
Why I’m Not Into You – Wanting Anyone But the One You’re With
Selective desire: wanting anyone BUT the one you’re with I was invited to speak on low sexual desire at a women’s gathering. After listening to the participants’ conversation, I piped…
11 Honeymoon Assignments
Spend a honeymoon afternoon preparing for a lifetime of good sex. If you want the honeymoon to be just the beginning of a fulfilling sex life, spend an afternoon on the…
Is Fighting About Sex Ruining your Marriage?
Balance the between space and get happy sexually. What if you felt as content as this blog picture looks? If sex were not a problem, would you be happy again…