Recovering Physical Intimacy in a Sexless Marriage
Silent Night: When All’s Quiet in the Master Bedroom As I write, the holiday madness is over and peace prevails in my house this snowy evening. The hush following Christmas…
Staying in the Adult Sexual Self While Visiting Family
Sex at my mother-in-law’s? Are you kidding? Our first Christmas, my husband and I made love on his mother’s upstairs bathroom floor while everyone waited lunch for us downstairs. If…
What A Temper Does to a Sex Life
Got Anger? You won’t have sex. Having a temper means having a lonely bed Flash Forward was an action-packed TV series about a cataclysmic event that knocked unconscious almost every human…
What Wives Think Up When their Husband’s Penis Falls Down
False assumptions about husbands’ Erectile Dysfunctions Lo and behold, the children are launching themselves into the world, there’s free time in the house, and … sex is falling down. Erectile…
Getting in the Mood
Getting in the mood may seem impossible. I worry about my children’s nutrition (or lack thereof); I plan meals and economical use of left-overs. My work troubles me no end…
Gambling Your Heart and Body on Monogamy – Part II
In Part I we discussed the relational risks in marriage for each opposing side of the closeness continuum: pursuers<—>distancers. Ironically the ability to be happier lies in risking what we…
Gambling Your Heart and Body on Monogamy
Maybe monogamy is dead. Given our society’s current divorce rate; the odds are against us. But what if you want it all and decide to gamble your heart and body…
Can Love Last? – Yes! with Continuous Vulnerability
Who doesn’t want romance and sex to last? It’s the reason I went into practice for couples counseling. But anyone who’s been married for five minutes, much less for five or…